Karibbean Vibez Radio Network (KVRN)
We talk a lot these days about “independent women” — women who pay their own bills, make their own moves, and don’t need anyone to complete them. And that’s powerful — independence is something to be proud of.
But here’s a question we don’t ask enough:
If independence means “I don’t need anyone,” how can you truly share your life with someone else?
See, independence in its purest form means self-sufficiency — standing on your own, emotionally, financially, mentally. But relationships — real ones — are built on interdependence: two people choosing to rely on and care for each other, not because they have to, but because they want to.
So sometimes when someone says, “I don’t need a man,” or constantly reminds others how “independent” she is, it can send the wrong signal — not confidence, but distance. It can sound less like empowerment and more like a wall.
And let’s be honest — most men aren’t intimidated by that. They’re just not interested in trying to build a connection with someone who seems to have no room for partnership. What some call intimidation is often just disinterest. Nobody — man or woman — wants to feel unnecessary.
Many men admire strength, ambition, and self-respect — those qualities are attractive. But when independence turns into self-centeredness or superiority, it shifts the energy. It stops being “I can hold my own” and starts sounding like “I’m above you.” That’s where the disconnect happens.
True strength doesn’t mean shutting people out — it means knowing you could stand alone but choosing to share your life anyway. Because even the strongest among us still crave love, respect, and connection.
So maybe the goal isn’t to be independent in the absolute sense — maybe it’s to be balanced. Strong enough to stand alone, humble enough to stand together.
Independent women scare insecure men but sometimes turn off secure men due to the attitude of so called independent woman. The attitude of an “independent woman” is usually driven by masculine attributes. A true MAN does not want a Soldier/battle buddy. True FEMININITY drives men to do what ever it is she wants just by a whisper. Independent women often times look for that “yes king “ treatment )even if subconsciously).
This is a fun read! While I totally get the point about the difference between true strength and icy independence, maybe the real goal is just being financially independent enough to afford takeout on dates? 😉 True power lies in being able to stand alone *and* not dying of loneliness, you know? Its like having a superpower – the ability to hang out with someone *or* enjoy a quiet night in without crying into a bowl of ice cream. Balance is key, folks. We just need to make sure that wall of independence isnt so high we cant see the perfectly good partner peering over it, waving a pizza.hẹn giờ online